Twin Flame Runner vs. Chaser Template

A concept that is widely circulated in the twin flame community is the runner vs. chaser dynamic. This concept typically stipulates that one energy, usually the feminine energy (not associated gender or sex), will chase the masculine energy that will run from the act of being chased. In my past experience, I identified as the feminine energy that chased (heavily pursued) the masculine energy, who subsequently ran from my pursuit. At the time, I thought identifying and associating myself with this role was beneficial and part of the process. Although I did resonate at the time and understand the concept very clearly, I strongly advise against anyone to chase anything twin flame or not.

Whatever we chase will always evade us because we are affirming that we don’t have it. This holds true in the twin flame dynamic as well. The feminine energy chasing the masculine energy affirms a lack of presence of the masculine energy, however manifested as physical or non-physical. When we hold onto something or pursue (chase) something or someone, we hold on too tightly in an effort to force something very unnatural. I have learned the best way to attract what I want is to dissolve the idea of chasing it and let it come to me.

While I think the runner vs. chaser dynamic explains the initial push and pull of masculine and feminine energies in the twin flame dynamic, I feel the best way to evolve in this process is to disengage from this association all together. For me, I was able to attract my masculine counterpart by disengaging from this template and focusing on myself, especially cultivation of my own self-love and self-worth. I set healthy physical and non-physical boundaries to avoid the entrapment of this cycle and held steadfast in my belief that I didn’t need to chase anything or anyone. While I understand the desperation to chase someone or something you love, it will never be yours or last for any duration of time if it comes unnaturally through force, coercion, guilt, manipulation, or fear.

In order to attract who you want and what you want, you must embody the state of already having it. If you’re a divine feminine energy attempting to chase the masculine energy for love, you must be love and embody self-love in order for the masculine energy to be attracted to you. This is why the best advice for anyone who identifies with the runner vs. chaser dynamic is to remove the association of being a runner or chaser and focus on cultivating and embodying self-love. When you embody self-love, you are a magnet for people, places, and experiences around you that will mirror that energy and vibration back to you. If you’re a divine masculine energy running from love, you must find that self-love within before you can be in a place to attract it outwardly in anyone or anything else.

Choose to genuinely love yourself fully and unconditionally and you will attract from a state of already having/being, never needing to seek anything outside of you.